joybon wrote in mortology

Too fucking awful?

When you lose your spouse, you are called a widow or widower. If you are a child and lose your parents, then you're an orphan. But, what's the word to describe a parent who loses a child? I guess that's just too fucking awful to have a name.

Brenda Six Feet Under Episode Nine, Series One.

What do you guys think? I find the idea of death fascinating, as well as the way that people (including myself) deal with death. However, I cannot be quite so cavalier about the death of children. I'm not sure why. Perhaps it just is that it is harder to say that they have lived a good life, or whatever. I recently updated a lay persons handbook on burial and funerals in my town and I was surprised to find that all the funeral homes had babies ROSE GARDENS. Why roses? A quick google search confirmed that this is the case in many other places. Ideas?