but you dont look sick....
Man, I have a lot of rants lately. It must be the time for it.
I stall as long as I have to before going to the store for food and stuff because of the pain and everything. It's just me so if I don't go out and shop, I don't eat. I get to the store and my hips hurt so bad I opt for the automated cart. I just recently started using them when the guy at wal-mart felt so bad for me limping about he pretty much forced me into the chair of the buggy. You don't realise how much pain your putting yourself through because in your head you can walk fine so why do I need a buggy? when in truth your in pain and very much need it. So I finnally admited I need them. One was free at the store today so I used it and putted around the store. I heard one little girl tell her mommy how pretty I was after I passed by and an elderly lady was nice to me when we had to get around each other so I was thinking maybe that the human race isnt as bad as it seems sometimes when dealing with the crap disabled people have to deal with on a daily basis. I should have known better.
I pull around a corner and up to a spot where I'm trying to each a can good and some teenager dives around me and litterally leans over the back of my buggy and me to get something on the bottem shelve. Normaly I grin and bare it when people lean over my wheelchair or buggy because its rude and bothers me but I rarely want to make a scene. She did say excuse me when she did it but people said I should have stood up for myself the last rant so I tried and said to her "Thats insanely rude by the way" Not in an overly hostle tone or anything. She gives me this dirty look and spouts "well if you wouldnt stop." and she proceeds to babble excuses for her behavor as she icnored me and walked back to her mother. one memorable one was "well you should get the hell out of the way" and so on so forth. I was completely taken back. maybe I should not stop and I should get the hell out of her way? When's the last time you didnt have to stop and stall a bit when getting a can good or something?
I have this rule in my world and I guess it doesnt work for other people but to me, if you wouldnt do it to someone standing up, dont do it to someone in a wheelchair or using some other mobility device. I had one friend who continually thought it was okay to try and reach around or lean over my chair to get or do what she wanted and I told her over and over not to do it because it was rude and bothered me. I'd never dive and reach around someone, not even if I said excuse me. I don't understand how people think if they say they are sorry, they can do what ever the hell they feel like it. "get the hell out of the way" nice. real nice.
The nice part of the story is the ending though. The casher was nice and helped me get my food and stuff to my car. Why he was doing that the girl who had told me to get out of the way had taken it upon herself to get one of the electric buggys like I had and was driving around the store with her little sister in her lap. The employee with me, yelled at them that the buggy was for disabled customers only and made them put it back. the horrorfied look on her face made me think that it didn't register to her when yelling at me to get out of the way that I was using the buggy because I was disabled. I'm young and don't look disabled to most people. I'm glad they got yelled at. They deserved so much more....
I stall as long as I have to before going to the store for food and stuff because of the pain and everything. It's just me so if I don't go out and shop, I don't eat. I get to the store and my hips hurt so bad I opt for the automated cart. I just recently started using them when the guy at wal-mart felt so bad for me limping about he pretty much forced me into the chair of the buggy. You don't realise how much pain your putting yourself through because in your head you can walk fine so why do I need a buggy? when in truth your in pain and very much need it. So I finnally admited I need them. One was free at the store today so I used it and putted around the store. I heard one little girl tell her mommy how pretty I was after I passed by and an elderly lady was nice to me when we had to get around each other so I was thinking maybe that the human race isnt as bad as it seems sometimes when dealing with the crap disabled people have to deal with on a daily basis. I should have known better.
I pull around a corner and up to a spot where I'm trying to each a can good and some teenager dives around me and litterally leans over the back of my buggy and me to get something on the bottem shelve. Normaly I grin and bare it when people lean over my wheelchair or buggy because its rude and bothers me but I rarely want to make a scene. She did say excuse me when she did it but people said I should have stood up for myself the last rant so I tried and said to her "Thats insanely rude by the way" Not in an overly hostle tone or anything. She gives me this dirty look and spouts "well if you wouldnt stop." and she proceeds to babble excuses for her behavor as she icnored me and walked back to her mother. one memorable one was "well you should get the hell out of the way" and so on so forth. I was completely taken back. maybe I should not stop and I should get the hell out of her way? When's the last time you didnt have to stop and stall a bit when getting a can good or something?
I have this rule in my world and I guess it doesnt work for other people but to me, if you wouldnt do it to someone standing up, dont do it to someone in a wheelchair or using some other mobility device. I had one friend who continually thought it was okay to try and reach around or lean over my chair to get or do what she wanted and I told her over and over not to do it because it was rude and bothered me. I'd never dive and reach around someone, not even if I said excuse me. I don't understand how people think if they say they are sorry, they can do what ever the hell they feel like it. "get the hell out of the way" nice. real nice.
The nice part of the story is the ending though. The casher was nice and helped me get my food and stuff to my car. Why he was doing that the girl who had told me to get out of the way had taken it upon herself to get one of the electric buggys like I had and was driving around the store with her little sister in her lap. The employee with me, yelled at them that the buggy was for disabled customers only and made them put it back. the horrorfied look on her face made me think that it didn't register to her when yelling at me to get out of the way that I was using the buggy because I was disabled. I'm young and don't look disabled to most people. I'm glad they got yelled at. They deserved so much more....