~/.bashrc is read by an non-login, interactive session of bash, not by non-interactive sessions.
ssh remote some_command is running some_command in an non-interactive session of bash, hence the remote ~/.bashrc is not being read (and of course reading the local one is out of question).
Precisely, non-interactive session of bash can read the file defined by the environment variable BASH_ENV or ENV (if set).
If you want to stick with the aliases, open the shell in interactive mode too:
ssh remote bash -ic 'll'
Also note that, aliases are standalone, they don't take any argument like you are providing a directory name. You need to use functions to have arguments as inputs. A similar function definition would be:
ll_f () { ls -al --color=auto "$@" ;}
Now you can do:
ll_f /dir_name